How to be Romantic

What is Romance?

Romance can be defined as a feeling of mystery or excitement associated with love. It is that feeling of adventure and intense feeling we have when in a relationship or attempting to woo a new partner. It is the resultant actions and behaviours of trying to show our romantic love to another individual.

Being romantic doesn’t need to involve a lot of time, money or effort. 101 simple ways to be romantic and 14 benefits of doing so below.  

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“You know that you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
Dr. Suess

14 Benefits of Being Romantic

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As well as the associated relationship benefits, there are also a number of benefits to us personally and our partner. These include;

  1. A strong & healthy Relationship
  2. Healthy sexual relationship
  3. Encourages creativity
  4. Self-contentment
  5. Self-satisfaction
  6. Builds our self-confidence levels
  7. Builds our partner’s self-confidence levels
  8. Build memories to cherish
  9. Ensures that your loved one knows they are loved
  10. Lowered anxiety and stress levels (and lowered cortisol levels)
  11. Naturally puts us in a good mood and can release the associated endorphins
  12. Reinforcing trust and respect
  13. Lowered blood pressure through feeling comfortable and relaxed with your partner
  14. More happiness
“Once in awhile, right in the middle of ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale”
J.B. Jeffrey

101 Simple Ways to be Romantic

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Being romantic doesn’t need a lot of time, money or effort. The simplest of things can put a smile on our partner’s face. Some basics and 101 ways to be romantic below (and more in the further exploration section) 

Be Romantic Basics

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  1. Tell them that you love them (& mean tt)
  2. Compliment them every day
  3. Tell them your favourite part of their physical appearance
  4. Tell them your favourite part of their personality
  5. Ask if there is anything you can do to help them
  6. Do something for them and don’t expect anything in return 
  7. Be there for them
  8. Spent time with them
  9. Be grateful for them 
  10. Share
  11. Pay them attention
  12. Communicate
  13. Listen to them
  14. Forgive mistakes
  15. Be silly
  16. Surprise them
  17. Be spontaneous!

Things To Buy To Be Romantic 

man holding flowers - Things to buy to be romantic
  1. Flowers – The ones you know your partner will love
  2. Chocolates – Again, the ones you know they will love
  3. Champagne
  4. Their favourite drink
  5. Their favourite clothes 
  6. Underwear
  7. Tickets to see their favourite band of DJ
  8. Scented candles or aromatherapy

Places To Go To Be Romantic

couple having a romantic meal - Places to go to be romantic
  1. Take them out for dinner
  2. Visit a new city
  3. Take them on a romantic trip or holiday
  4. Go for a walk on the beach
  5. Go To The Cinema
  6. Go to the Theatre
  7. Go On a Long Walk
  8. Go camping and spend a night looking at the stars
  9. Take a boat trip
  10. Go horse riding
  11. Go skydiving
  12. Go somewhere with a beautiful view and soak it up
  13. Go to a funfair and ride the ferris wheel
  14. Go swimming in the sea
  15. Surprise them and meet them for lunch
  16. Take them somewhere they’d want to go (and do the things they’d want to do)

Classic Ways to Be Romantic

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  1. Write love notes and leave them somewhere your partner will find them
  2. Send a text or email telling them you love them when they’re not expecting it
  3. Send them a card or e-card telling them you love them (whether it’s Valentines Day or not!)
  4. Cook them their favourite meal
  5. Make them their favourite dessert
  6. Make breakfast in bed
  7. Scatter rose petals on the bed
  8. Light a candle for every year you’ve been together
  9. Fill a room full of candles
  10. Carve your initials into a tree
  11. Give them your coat when they’re cold
  12. Write them a poem
  13. Open the door for them
  14. Write them a little note or give them a picture to keep in their wallet or purse
  15. Make them a romantic playlist
  16. Spend the day in bed 

Things To Do To Be Romantic

Couple kissing in the sunset - Things to do to be romantic

  1. Look after the kids so they can have a lie-in
  2. Take the kids out so they can enjoy some peace
  3. Play some board games together
  4. Play their favourite music (or some romantic music)
  5. Take them to the place where you first met
  6. Run them a hot bath (candles optional)
  7. Give them a cheeky, seductive look
  8. Get a takeaway and have a cosy night in
  9. Watch the Sunset
  10. Watch the Sunrise
  11. Cosy up and watch a film together  
  12. Brag about them
  13. Take a class together
  14. Fly a kite together
  15. Build a den
  16. Let them have space
  17. Talk about the future
  18. Talk about your hopes & dreams
  19. Hide a note in their work lunchbox or in their luggage if they go away
  20. Re-enact your first date
  21. Pretend you’re going on a first date
  22. Take an interest in what they love and get involved with it
  23. Take care of yourself & look good for them
  24. Put a little gift on their pillow
  25. Have date nights
  26. Take it easy in nature
  27. Play sports and games together
  28. Put a note or reminder in your calendar to tell them that you love them every day
  29. Make a collage of photos and memories from the things that you’ve done together
  30. Take a trip down memory lane and go through old photos
  31. Try new experiences together (some here)
  32. Donate to their favourite charity in their name
  33. Be their slave for a day and do whatever they ask (within reason!)
  34. Have a campfire (marshmallows optional)
  35. Do the cleaning for them

Physical Ways To Be Romantic

couple hugging and kissing - Physical ways to be romantic
  1. Hold Hands
  2. Kiss
  3. Put your arm around them
  4. Give a massage
  5. Give a foot massage
  6. Tickle
  7. Hug
  8. Try sexy role-play 
  9. Get Intimate

Further Exploration - Articles & Media

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Article: When She Asks You To Be 'More Romantic,' This Is What She Really Means

25 examples of what romance means to women from Your Tango including going for a long walk and talk on the beach and kissing her forehead.

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Wiki: Romance (love)

The Wikipedia definition of and guide to romance and love. Including information on general definitions, types, philosophy, literature, psychology and physiology of romance.

1001 Ways to Be Romantic: Add More Intimacy and Romance in Your Marriage or Love Life by Gregory J. P. Godek book cover

Book: 1001 Ways to Be Romantic: Add More Intimacy and Romance in Your Marriage or Love Life

Gregory J. P. Godek's book packed with 1001 unique suggestions, easy gestures, and thoughtful gift ideas to be romantic
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Paper: Perceived benefits and costs of romantic relationships for women and men

Comprehensive paper from Constantine Sedikides, Mery Beth Oliver & W. Keith Campbell of the University of Southampton looking at the benefits and costs of romantic relationships.

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Article: 5 Surprising Health Benefits of Romantic Love

5 Health benefits of romantic love from Goodnet including having a healthier heart, longer life and strong lungs

Article: 60 Impressive Ways to Be Romantic

60 ways from FTD including placing a single flower on the bathroom sink, spending a tech free night and slow dancing in the living room

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Video: 4 WAYS to Be MORE ROMANTIC ... RIGHT NOW!

Video from Based Zeus Youtube Channel with 4 ways including being spontaneous and interestingly, not being romantic!

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Video: Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships

TEDx talk by Joanne Davila discussing 3 key areas to healthy romantic relationships; insight, mutuality, and emotion regulation.

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Forum: Why is romance important for life?

Quora forum discussing why romance is important in life including elevating everyday life and making people feel special and loved.

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This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Ashok

    Your tips really helpful, thanks for your time and effort.

    1. Admin

      Thank you Ashok, much appreciated. Glad you found this helpful!

  2. Anthony

    I really enjoyed coming here for help

    1. Admin

      Thank you!

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