The key to forgiveness begins with understanding. Understanding the emotion, the person, the situation and ourselves. When we understand we can start to move on. 24 ways to practice forgiveness below; 

1. Understand What True Forgiveness Is: Forgiveness is not just the letting go of feelings but also leaving them behind and not allowing them to ruminate in your mind any longer. Reach for the ultimate level of forgiveness
2. Understand You Have a Choice: The choice to forgive or hold on to a grudge is yours. You can choose to forgive if you want to. When you do, you are making a pact with yourself, not the other person to let it go and leave those feelings behind
3. Understand the Situation: Before you judge look at the situation and why it has occurred. This will help to understand what has happened & way and to identify a potential way forward
4. Understand the Person: What has led them to do what they have done? What was their past like? Is there a reason they may have acted how they have? Understanding the person may go someway to explaining their actions and help on the path to forgiveness
5. Understand Yourself: How do you feel? How did you act? Why do you feel the way you do? Does anything in your past have a bearing on your current thoughts? Understanding your emotions and why you feel the way that you do will help add perspective to the situation
6. Move On: Easily said but again, it’s a choice. Choose to move on, get over it and live your life. Regardless of the outcome with the other person or people, choose to forgive and not wallow in self-pity 
7. Look at it as a Process: Depending on the act involved, there will be many emotions involved such as anger, resentment and feelings of wanting revenge. Understand that there will most likely be a period of time before being able to finally forgive and forget 
8. Take Time if You Need It: It maybe easy to forgive small issues however larger problems may take time. Don’t expect to be able to forgive immediately. Take the time you need to heal
9. Forgiveness Can Take Many Forms: You don’t have to keep an ongoing relationship with the person in order to forgive. You can forgive and still cut ties
10. Look for the Meaning or the Learning: Why did it happen? Often in life there is a lesson that can be learnt from even the worst of situations
11. Write it Down: Get your feelings down on paper. How do you feel? What would you say to them if you could? This will help you see things more clearly and the way you want to move forward
12. Work At Your Feelings & Empathy: Empathy is a skill that can take many years to develop. Understand the pain and bad feeling they/them may also be going through. Use empathy to help on the path to forgiveness
13. Talk: Find out the reasons why they have done what they have done. You might be surprised. Talking can help get to the real route cause of the situation  
14. Put Yourself in Their Shoes: Look at things from their perspective. Look at why the person has done what they have done. In their eyes 
15. Think of When People Have Forgiven You: Nobody is perfect and everyone will have hurt someone ro done something wrong at some point. Look at when someone has extended the gift of forgiveness to you and pass it forward
16. Don’t Be Too Self Righteous: We have all done things that we are not proud of. Think about times when you’ve done things that aren’t so great and don’t get on your high horse too quickly  
17. Be Kind: Don”t always try to be right. Practice kindness and compassion
18. Mindfulness & Meditation: Practicing mindfulness & meditation can help clear the thoughts, remove the negative emotions and see things clearly
19. Look at the Alternatives: Bad feeling and not speaking again? Is that what you really want?
20. Share With a Confidant: Talking to someone you trust about the situation always helps to give another perspective (good or bad)
21. Take Action: Take steps to move things forward, whatever your decision around your relationship with the person. Move forward, don’t get stuck with the same feelings 
22. Take Small Steps: If you need to, take things one small step at a time. Start with a quick phone call or text to let them know where you are with your emotions and that you are working things through for yourself
23. Set Boundaries for the Future: If you decide to continue your relationship with the person, set clear boundaries both for yourself and for them. They will know where they stand and you will know where your own personal lines are drawn 
24. Get Help: If you really want to forgive but can’t, consider seeing a therapist or counsellor. This can be just for you or including the other person too. There are many trained counsellors and therapists who will be able to help