Our Relationship

Our relationship completes us. How our relationship makes us whole and the essential tips to keeping it alive below

What is it?

10 Reasons Why A Healthy Relationship Completes Us

65 Ways To Have A Good Relationship

Further Exploration – Articles & Media

Your Take – Comments

What Relationship?

Our partner, other half, better half, girlfriend or boyfriend, wife or husband. We decide our partner and the person we want to spend the majority of our time. We need to take the time and effort to make them work.

“I love you.” The 3 words that can change everything. There is nothing more exhilarating than meeting someone and falling wildly in love. It consumes our every thought.

Relationships work and don’t work, that is a fact of life. We know when a relationship is good for us or not so good for us. Trust your instinct.

10 benefits of a healthy relationship and 65 ways to make it a good one below

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

Dr Seuss

10 reasons Why A Healthy Relationship Completes Us

They are the person that you choose to spend your time with. The person that you turn to in for better or worse. The person you may even commit to spending the rest of your life with. They bring us a wealth of peace and happiness. The benefits of a healthy relationship include;

Somebody to share our good and bad times with
Somebody to make memories with
Have a family with
Enjoy intimate moments with
Someone to confide in
Give us a sense of purpose
Someone to grow old with
Provide us with support and love
Reduce stress through having someone to share our ups and down with
A best friend

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

Lao Tzu

65 Ways To Have a Good Relationship

Two people making a heart shape with our hands

True love between two people is an amazing and pure emotion. We should look after it otherwise it might be go bad. 65 top relationship tips below and a wealth of further information in further exploration.

Talk, talk, talk – when we stop communicating we stop understanding each other
Listen to their thoughts, ideas and aspirations
Be Honest
Work at it – Relationships take work
Make your relationship a priority
Be Yourself – Don’t try to attract someone by being someone that you’re not, it will inevitably end in tears
Ensure mutual respect
Have boundaries. You are not one person and dependency on your significant other is a not a good place to be. Be your own person and allow them to do the same
Ensure that you are happy – you cannot have a good relationship if you are not happy with yourself first
Sometimes it is not a case of right and wrong
Always talk, don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader. You in turn don’t know what they are thinking
Show them love and affection every day
Don’t try to change your partner – you can only change yourself
Help them when they need it
Understand your significant other. Know their beliefs, relationships, feeling and values. Understand them and what makes them tick
Don’t get angry or shout
Accept that there will be disappointing or hard times
Don’t let things stew… Although know when to bite your tongue and let things calm down
Don’t retaliate in the heat of the moment. Take some time out to take a breather. No one has ever been proud of what they’ve said at that point
Trust is critical. When it’s gone it’s gone
Don’t belittle or criticise them
Appreciate them
Be playful
Men and women have different needs and ways of thinking – understand and accept that
Be independent and responsible for your own happiness – when you rely on someone else to provide that for you you can become needy
Be their best friend
Confide in them
Trust them
Be a team
But give them space when they need it
Be the person that you would want to have as your partner
Have the courage to tell your partner if it’s not working – Do not continue out of feelings of pity or being scared of the consequences
Make time for each other
Do little things for each other
Allow for individuality to be strength to each other rather than a cause of arguments
Try not to have secrets (even if they are to try and protect your partner)
Respect their decisions and actions
Make sacrifices – Do what they want to do or give up your time them
Accept flaws – No-one is perfect and no one ever will be. Accept their flaws as part of the person you love
Stop obsessing about them and checking your phone every 5 minutes – let them be
Focus on the things that you love about them
Be reliable
Reminisce with them
When arguments occur – check that it is not coming from your own fears and insecurities
Keep negative thoughts in check
Be happy for them when things go right for them
Do exciting and new things with each other (some examples here)
Tell them what it is you love about them
Learn how to forgive – We all make mistakes from time to time
Tell them how you feel
Have fun together
Stay faithful
Understand their relationships – both family and friends
Don’t stonewall them
Don’t show contempt (or roll your eyes) at them
Understand your own negative traits and how they might be affecting your relationship
You know deep down when things are good. When they are not, trust your gut feelings
Do not continually dredge things up from the past when they have no relevance
Discuss what you both want out of life
Create goals together, have things to work towards together. Dream about your future and life together and plan it
Assume they have good intentions
Be playful
Sex is important
Be romantic. Keep things exciting
If things are really bad but you want to save the relationship consider seeing a therapist or counsellor. There are many trained experts who will be able to help

When it doesn’t work?

When love fails it can seem like the world has ended. We shouldn’t hang on when we know there is no future. We should stop if the mutual feeling and respect isn’t there.
The only great healer is time and the knowledge that everything will be ok again in the future. If it was true love, we never forget them however the feelings subside over time. Look to what that person brought you rather than what you feel they took away. Always remember that unless we are are content being single and the person that we are, we can never be fully happy in a relationship (and being single can be fun can be fun anyway)